Renewing Your Mind: Who Do You Think You Are?

October 15th, 2014 by whitneyhopler

It was a just a brief comment, but it made a major impact on my life.

“You’re a gifted writer,” my 5th grade teacher told me after reading a poem I’d written for her class. As a shy girl who often felt awkward, I latched onto the teacher’s encouragement, hoping that it was really true, because it if it was, it would be a lot better than other comments people had made about me: I’d been called a “dork” (because of the bifocal glasses I wore) who was the “new kid” in school after moving and seemed “stuck up” because I was too quiet for some of the other kids to like me. Then there were the negative comments I made about myself through my inner voice, as an insecure child of divorce who secretly wondered if I’d done something wrong to cause my parents to break up their marriage and rip apart my world.

That one new, positive way to view myself planted seeds of confidence that grew over the years. I was still a shy, awkward person, but that wasn’t all I was. I was also a good writer, I told myself, and by reminding myself of something positive in me I started to notice other positive aspects of myself. Finally, as a teenager, I came to faith and discovered my true identity as one of God’s beloved children. Then I really knew who I was, and my confidence was secure as a result.

Your success is in the vital effort to renew your mind depends on having the confidence to do so. In order to have confidence, you have to discover who you are — and like that person!

Many different people speak into your life in various ways every day: friends, family members, coworkers, etc. They may either like or dislike you, and their words may either encourage or discourage you. But they don’t know you completely. Other people see only a portion of who you truly are at any given moment. Others will sometimes misunderstand or mistreat you. Their perspective on you is incomplete and sometimes inaccurate, and their motives and emotions can be skewed.

So don’t let other people tell you who you are. Tell yourself who you are. Then you can live from the secure foundation of that identity, which will lead to the kind of life you really want to live!

Who do you think you are, and why? Are you basing your identity on what other people say about you, or on what you’ve discovered about yourself?

Renewing Your Mind: Your Inner Voice

October 8th, 2014 by whitneyhopler

What do you say to yourself in the privacy of your own mind?

Your inner voice constantly runs through your mind, shaping how you perceive yourself, as well as everyone and everything in the world around you. It can either discourage or encourage you.

It’s easy to just fall into a habit of listening to your inner voice’s default messages without analyzing and challenging them. But it’s worth paying attention to what you’re really saying to yourself. Since many people are their own harshest critics, it may shock you to discover how critical your inner voice sounds once you start paying close attention to it. Do you often catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself, such as: “I’ll never be able to do this, so why waste time trying?” or “I don’t deserve to be happy.”?

If so, it’s important to confront such negative thoughts and start replacing them with positive ones that reflect the truth about who you are: a valuable person who can enjoy a confident life.

As the author of several novels, I paid careful attention during the writing process to what I imagined my characters’ inner voices to be, so their scenes would be believable and their dialogue would ring true. But paying attention to my own inner voice in real life is even more important — so I remind myself to do so regularly.

The Scottish Storytelling Centre, which I visited recently in Edinburgh, emphasizes how all people are constantly telling stories simply by how we choose to live our lives. Since the way we live our lives is ultimately determined by the thoughts we think in our minds, it’s vitally important to pay attention to our inner voices, which have such a significant impact on who we are and what we do.

A Scottish proverb says: “The story is told eye to eye, mind to mind, heart to heart.” Stories that really resonate with people are authentic ones that reflect the true essence of the people telling them. If you want the stories of your life to be good ones, you’ve got to think good thoughts — starting with the way you think about yourself.

That’s easier said then done, however.

Gunk from your past — like the voices of people who have discouraged or mistreated you over the years — can clog up the filter of your inner voice. When you catch your inner voice speaking negative thoughts that don’t reflect the positive reality of who you are, it may be because a parent, sibling, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, coworker, teacher, coach, or someone else in your past put you down and you lost confidence in yourself as a result. Recognizing the source of such negativity is the first step in overcoming it. Then you need to clean the gunk out regularly to keep your mind clear.

Does your inner voice encourage or discourage you? How? What changes would you like to make in the ways you talk to yourself in your mind?


Renewing Your Mind: Changing Your Thoughts Will Change Your Life

October 1st, 2014 by whitneyhopler

Welcome to my new blog, “Renewing Your Mind”! This is a topic that that has long fascinated me. Since the way we think determines the direction of our lives, it’s crucial to learn how to use the power of our minds to end up where we want to go — accomplishing good purposes. Our thoughts lead to our attitudes, which lead to our actions, which shape our entire lives in either negative or positive ways.

So it’s important to think about what we’re thinking about. When we do, we can change negative thoughts that lead to places we don’t want to go in life to positive thoughts that lead us to reaching our full potential. Since our lives follow our thoughts, changing our thoughts from negative to positive will always change our lives for the better.

As a person of faith, I believe in the power of the Holy Spirit to empower us as we work to change the way we think. The Bible urges us in Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

But I’ll be writing here for everyone who’s interested in the life of the mind. I plan to post new content here every Wednesday to offer something that will hopefully prove to be thought-provoking and encouraging in the middle of each week.

One of the best ways I’ve found to visualize the power of transforming our minds is by considering a classic example of change from nature: caterpillars turning into butterflies or moths. I visited Butterfly World in Coconut Creek, Florida to study the process and observe it in action. After making their cocoons out of silk, caterpillars break down their bodies, releasing enzymes that dissolve almost all of their body parts into a mushy substance that’s rich in protein. Then the only parts of the caterpillars that haven’t dissolved (cells that are called imaginal discs) use the mushy goo from the dissolved body parts to build a butterfly or moth body.

The creature that emerges from the cocoon after this process is an entirely new creature from the one that had started the process. In what’s known scientifically as complete metamorphosis, one creature has transformed into another!

As human beings, we’re all works in progress, changing and growing every day. We need to learn how to break down negative thoughts that lead to unhealthy attitudes (such as worrisome fear and destructive anger) and build up positive thoughts that lead to healthy attitudes (like peace and joy).

The power we have to change our own lives and impact others when we change our thoughts is tremendous. While walking around Butterfly World, I encountered a plant called Mimosa pudica, which is sensitive to touch. It closes up its leaves immediately after something touches it too harshly, in order to protect itself from harm. But when I touched it lightly — as  a butterfly or moth would — its leaves remained open.  In the same way, when we express negativity to other people, they will often close themselves off from us, but when we’re positive with others because we’ve been thinking positively, many opportunities will open up for us to move our lives in the direction we hope to go.

What negative thoughts do you struggle with now that you’d like to change? What positive thoughts would you like to make a habit of thinking about, and why?

Movie Star Memories: Lucille Ball

October 1st, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

Lucille Ball’s star rose higher in Hollywood once she began working in television, but she had been working steadily in the movie industry for about 15 years prior to that. Lucy’s gift for comedy was evident in some of the films she made before the debut of her wildly successful TV show “I Love Lucy.”

As a girl, I watched reruns of that show so much that I came to idolize Lucy. One day I got a silly, crazy idea (just the kind of idea that Lucy Ricardo would get): I decided to call Lucy’s production office out in California to see if I could talk to her on the phone. With my mom’s support, I researched the phone number and then called it, never really expecting that I’d actually reach Lucy — but I did!

A receptionist answered the phone, and I said as clearly as I could (while my heart was pounding nervously in my chest) that I was a girl from the East Coast who enjoyed Ms. Ball’s TV shows and was hoping to tell her so. The man hesitated for a moment before telling me to hold on. Those next few minutes of being on hold seemed like the longest few minutes of my life. I kept trying to mentally rehearse what I’d say if Lucy herself got on the phone, but I couldn’t think straight, so I just kept listening to the sound of my own breathing until a woman with a deep voice picked up the line and said: “Hi; this is Lucille Ball.”

Was that really her? I wondered for a moment, before remembering that her voice had deepened over the years from cigarette smoking. The woman did sound just like Lucy had sounded on a recent TV interview I’d watched. “Um, um, hi,” I blurted out. “Um, uh, thanks for taking my call.”

“You’re welcome, dear. I understand you enjoy my work.” The genuine warmth that came through in her voice helped me relax.

I don’t actually remember everything that I blurted out over the next few minutes, but it generally had to do with some of my favorite scenes from Lucy’s shows and how happy she had made me feel watching them. I talked and talked in a burst of nervous energy, and Lucy listened patiently.

Then she thanked me for calling her. “I love to hear from young people like you,” she told me.

“Oh, thank you,” I gushed. “I loved talking to you.”

That one phone conversation meant the world to a shy girl like me. It was the first time I’d done something so bold to try to make a dream come true, and it actually worked. That set me on a path of pursuing other dreams, which have led me to many other adventures over the years that I wouldn’t have experienced if I’d lacked courage.

Some years later, when I was a teen, I met Lucy in person at the Kennedy Center Honors. She was cordial, but not as friendly as she’d seemed on the phone before. That didn’t bother me, though, because I knew why: Just a few days before the event, her former husband and lifelong friend Desi Arnaz had passed away. Lucy was visibly emotional, seeming to swing frequently between sorrow and joy that evening we met. It was clear that Lucy herself was a much more complex person than her “Lucy” character.

I’ll always be grateful to Lucy for taking my call.

Movie Star Memories: Jimmy Stewart

September 29th, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

I was blessed to have met one of the most talented and versatile of Hollywood’s actors — James Stewart (Jimmy Stewart) — twice.

The first time I encountered Jimmy in person was at a book signing for his delightful book Jimmy Stewart and His Poems. I have to confess that I was annoyed at how slowly the line to get into the bookstore was moving, but when I discovered the reason why, I didn’t mind the wait as much. Jimmy took the time to engage in genuine conversations with everyone who asked him to autograph a copy of his book. If people asked him questions, he responded. If people told him a story, he listened. Everyone simply had to wait their turn.

That was fair, I thought to myself. Jimmy had a reputation for doing what was right by people, and his patience and engagement with his fans was just further evidence of that.

Finally, it was my turn. I offered my book to Jimmy and exchanged a few pleasantries with him while he signed it. Then I told him that I enjoyed writing poetry myself and he encouraged me to keep writing. He was just like I’d hoped he would be: a kind and even sweet gentleman. I wished I would have had some long questions to ask him or a good story to tell him so I could linger a bit longer with him, but I didn’t, so I moved on. Over the years since, I’ve often re-read his poems and smiled when I recalled his encouragement for me to keep writing my own.

Later, I met Jimmy at the University of Virginia’s film festival. That time I was prepared with a couple of good questions to ask him. But the woman in line in front of me stole my thunder by boldly kissing him on the cheek without warning! Jimmy looked surprised and then laughed. Those of us in the crowd around him applauded. I had to give her credit for a great idea, but regretted that I hadn’t thought of it first!

I was to encounter Jimmy one final time in person. On a trip to California one spring, my mom and I attended a worship service at Jimmy’s longtime church, Beverly Hills Presbyterian. We saw him in the congregation but didn’t want to disturb his worship by approaching him. Instead, we simply exchanged smiles with him from afar. What an appropriate place for me to last see Jimmy in person!  His faith guided his entire career, and God used that career to inspire countless people through his films.

Movie Star Memories: Ginger Rogers

September 27th, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

Ginger Rogers is my favorite of all Hollywood movie stars, because of her gracefulness, energy, and versatility. The first time I met Ginger — at the American Film Institute’s film ball in Washington, D.C. in 1984 — I was a painfully shy preteen and she was as graceful offscreen as she appeared onscreen. When I finally mustered enough courage to approach her and tried to speak, the words came out so softly that she couldn’t hear me and had to ask me repeat myself. I did (with a nervously pounding heart), but soon learned that I could relax, because she was a genuinely kind person who made me feel at ease. She invited me to sit near her for the rest of the evening, and I had a few more opportunities to talk briefly with her.

The next morning, we met again when I waited outside the press conference Ginger held while donating her one of her dancing dresses from the movie Top Hat to the Smithsonian Institution. She remembered me from the night before and took the time to encourage me to keep being bold and follow my dreams, including my dream of one day becoming a journalist. Part of the reason I had the confidence to pursue that dream — and see it come true — was because I looked to the confident Ginger as my role model.

I had the blessing of meeting Ginger numerous times later on, such as at another Smithsonian event, a stop on her book tour to promote her autobiography, and the Kennedy Center Honors. Each time she encouraged me to be confident and place my trust in God to empower me in life. She was truly a great lady!  Learn more about her faith in this article I wrote about her centennial for in 2011.


Movie Star Memories: Bob Hope

September 24th, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

Meeting Bob Hope was a thrill for me because he was — and still remains — my favorite comedian of all time. True, Bob had a team of wonderful writers working for him to produce many of the jokes he used. But Bob himself was also a witty guy who would make astute and entertaining comments in conversation. So it was no surprise to me learn that Bob was often personally involved in the creative process along with his joke-writing team.

The first time I saw Bob in person was when he performed at George Washington University. I was just a teen but a fervent fan of Bob’s timeless humor, and so was my dad. So the two of us attended the show together and laughed through every minute of it.

Later, I met Bob briefly at the Kennedy Center Honors, and he was just as I’d hoped he would be: a witty gentleman with a mischievous sense of humor. I tried to follow him around for a while without seeming like a stalker, just so I could eavesdrop on his conversations with others. Every word he said was just as sharp as the jokes he told.

Bob knew that the best humor didn’t have to rely on shock value or cheap tricks. Bob’s humor was respectful of people yet still uproariously funny, because it had both love and wisdom at its core.

Movie Star Memories: Ann Miller

September 21st, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

I met Ann Miller briefly after a performance of the musical Sugar Babies, in which she was appearing with Mickey Rooney on a national tour that had stopped in Washington, D.C. Ann had sung and danced her way throughout the high-energy show (a tribute to burlesque) impressively — especially considering that she was a senior citizen at the time. She even did some of her signature super-fast tap dancing.

She was quite down-to-earth, which was a pleasant surprise. Her elaborate makeup and ultra-glamorous demeanor had given me the impression that she would be rather unapproachable, but thankfully that wasn’t the case. Underneath her over-the-top appearance, Ann was a warm and friendly person.

Movie Star Memories: Ronald Reagan

September 18th, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

When former Hollywood movie star Ronald Reagan served as president of the United States during the 1980s, I encountered him several times in person at the Kennedy Center Honors, an annual event in Washington, D.C. that celebrates the professional legacies of some of the best American performing artists.

He was smiling whenever I looked at him — and his smile seemed to light up his eyes. That mesmerizing smile was what struck me most about him.

While I didn’t have a chance to talk with him directly, I did overhear some of his comments to others, and they were all lighthearted musings about the various artists who were being celebrated.

Ronald Reagan actually seemed to me to be more like a boy than a man. He seemed too  playful, somehow, to be the leader of the free world. But when I consider how he served as president, I think he was really one of the best free world leaders the world has ever seen. A serious demeanor simply wasn’t necessary for his success.

Years later, when I visited his presidential library in California after his death, I couldn’t help but laugh when I saw a portrait of him composed entirely of jellybeans — the candy he loved to snack on at the White House. It reminded me of the playful boy-man I’d seen joking around at the Kennedy Center Honors years ago.

Movie Star Memories: Lillian Gish

September 15th, 2013 by whitneyhopler

In this blog series, I’ll describe my impressions of various movie stars I’ve met over the years. Hope you enjoy reading about your favorites, and that you’ll be inspired to check out my Hollywood novel Dream Factory, which is available in both paperback and electronic formats through

While most of the movie stars I’ve met over the years are those from Hollywood’s golden age (1930s to 1950s, my favorite era), I did get to meet one of Hollywood’s silent era stars — the wonderful Lillian Gish — at a Smithsonian Institution event in Washington, D.C. celebrating the first century of movie-making.

Lillian’s career spanned an impressive amount of time: from 1912 to 1987. Although she continued working on various projects long after “talkies” (movies with sound) hit theaters, her best-known work was in silent movies. Lillian became known for her ability to captivate audiences with her extraordinarily expressive face — a talent best showcased in silent films.

Silent movies were her favorites, Lillian admitted when I met her, but she took the lessons she’d learned about how to convey emotion on camera visually  in silent films and transferred that knowledge to sound films, with great success.

What struck me most about Lillian was how strong her spirit was compared to how diminutive she was physically. While us audience members interviewed her, she commanded the stage with impressive authority. I could definitely picture her doing the many dangerous stunts that she did for her silent films, such as jumping off runaway horses, filming while live ammunition was firing around her, and laying down on an ice slab that was floating down a river toward a waterfall. Lillian did all of her own stunts in her many popular silent films, and her spunk and confidence was evident many years later!